Write a Solid Handwritten Letter

Catherine Lowe, Bachelor alum, stationery impresario and tastemaker, gives us the lowe-down.

For someone who found her soulmate by scribing handwritten notes, Catherine Giudici Lowe knows all about the science. To win over her husband’s heart on national TV, she passed him 3 x 3 cards that expressed her feelings for him while the pair was filming the Bachelor.

“I’m not a lovey dovey, let’s talk about having babies and running into the sunset together type of person. I’m a silly, quirky person,” she says. “One of the first cards I wrote to Sean was, ‘I’m vegan but I love the beef. P.S., you don’t have hair on your arms. I dig that.”

When she was on the brink of being put in the friend zone, she slipped him a romantic note that contained nothing but a single kiss mark. No words necessary.

Letter writing has always been something Catherine has appreciated. As a girl growing up in Seattle, Washington, her mom hoarded stationery to rifle through for any occasion. That, coupled with Catherine’s love of graphic design, would soon turn into a career.

She opened up LoweCo., a luxury papery, just shy of two years ago, after designing invitations and save the dates for her own wedding. Previously a graphic designer for Amazon, she felt her resume was getting stale after doing countless Bachelor appearances and traveling to support Sean as he appeared on Dancing with the Stars. In launching her own collection, Catherine found an opportunity to fulfill her passion and utilize her trendsetting skills. Cards featuring fun messages and puns like “You Maid It” and “I Would Double Tap That” did just that.

These days, Catherine believes handwritten notes are especially important. “You can text and email someone but there’s effort that goes along with choosing a specific card, writing someone’s address, buying a stamp and going to the mailbox,” she says. “They’re intentional acts and steps to show someone that you care. It’s also a keepsake. I have every single note that Sean has ever given to me and I’ve ever given to him.”

Obviously, he now returns the favor. Below, Catherine outlines the three notes every woman should know how to write.

Thank You

For thank you notes, be meaningful, heartfelt and sincere in whatever it is that you're grateful for. Be timely. If you meet someone for business, the first thing you should do after you leave the meeting is write them a thank you when it's on the top of their mind. Of course, it’s never too late to send a thank you, but it can become less impactful the longer you wait.

Sympathy

Sympathy and condolences can be really hard. If you take the time to figure out what would be the best plan of action and just show someone that you care, that means more than anything. Even if the body of your message says “I’m sorry” and has a heart next to your name, that can do wonders for someone that’s going through pain. Everyone mourns differently, but certain memories should be left for in-person discussion. They don’t need to be reminded about why they’re mourning—just tell them how much you care, that you're there for them and you're thinking of them.

Love

I love to write love notes. On our way to our babymoon, I gave Sean a note that said, “I can’t wait for our son to grow up exactly like his daddy” and he started bawling on the plane. For a bold moment, make it short and sweet. Or go long and detail in paragraphs the reasons you admire your partner, the things you appreciate about them and what you're most excited for in the future. Our wedding vows were the ultimate love letter—my favorite line was, "You were a light to my bug. I had to find you." Pour out your heart and get creative. Sean sometimes draws pictures which are really funny. A little Polaroid, gift or a “P.S., let’s go get a massage together” are cute additions.