It’s Time to Learn How to Live

Our newest Entrepreneur in Residence, Dr. Lauren Hazzouri, advises her patients—and now us, too!—to stop and breathe. Repeat after Lauren: I am enough.

Editor’s Note:
We’re thrilled to introduce you to our newest Entrepreneur in Residence, Dr. Lauren Hazzouri of Hazzouri Psychology in Scranton, Pennsylvania. In her practice, Lauren has carved out a successful niche treating women who are “psychologically healthy,” but running themselves ragged. We’ve asked Lauren to chime in on to share her practical suggestions for living well and becoming your best self. Join us on Facebook next Wednesday for a live chat with Lauren at 3pm EST.

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From Lauren:
As a working woman, I am certainly not unique in that I play many roles in many lives. I multitask from the time I get up until the time I go to bed. I’m Ava’s mom. I’m a psychologist and a TV show host. I’ve recently launched, a site designed to help teen girls and young adult women learn how to be brave and to make their souls sing.
So yes, I am busy, but I am healthy. I am happy. I am proof that when we learn how to live and become the best version of ourselves, busy doesn’t need to feel bad, work doesn’t need to lead to overworked, and multitasking doesn’t need to make us feel scattered.
Several years ago I, like many of you, was completely psychologically healthy, but I was messing up in my day to day. I was stressed, harried, anxious. I was doing it all, and I knew I wasn’t doing it well. I had the best of intentions, but intentions weren’t enough.
As working women today, we’re somewhat pioneers in that we are living truly multidimensional lives. We are treading new waters in which many of us haven’t had a real role model—and yet we will serve as such for our daughters and, frankly, for our sons, too. I began to self-reflect on my situation and it became apparent that I needed to use the knowledge I’d gained from my doctoral training and my life experiences to create a model for living that I could follow. It was time to take the leap—out of the problem and into the solution. Through trial and error, I developed the lifestyle I live and share today, and today I’m glad to report that I am efficiently and consistently fulfilling all of those same roles and responsibilities, while living the life I so well deserve. Fortunately, I’m not unique. If I can do it, you can do it, too! Over the next few months, you’ll see me here quite often on I’m joining the team to pace with you, to offer the skillsets you’ll need and, ultimately, to help you feel less like a weathervane and more like the wind. In short, here’s how: Without a steadfast commitment to self, life gets messy.

1. Character building

This is a great place to start. We mean well but, at times, we don’t do good. For example, sneaking out of work without permission to be there for your child's school dismissal—or telling your child you’ll be there and, instead, sending someone else. Without a steadfast commitment to self—to never sell-out yourself or another—life gets messy. Boundaries are crossed, promises are broken and we can’t possibly reach our potential. To be your best self, you must have your physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual wellness aligned—the whole is greater than the sum of the parts.

2. Physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual wellness

Think of these areas as the tires on your car. Inflating one tire more than the others creates serious imbalance. In fact, a warning light will appear on your dash. We, too, have a warning light. It’s called stress, our internal indicator that we are out of synch. Each area contributes to wellness, but to really excel, you must have them all working for you—after all, the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. If you don’t nurture yourself, you haven’t a shot at nurturing others.

3. Self-care (it’s critical!)

If you don’t nurture yourself, you haven’t a shot at nurturing others or performing at your best in any of your roles. Please note, I’m not talking about being nice to yourself—buying something new or getting a manicure. While that, too, is important, nurturing yourself feels deeply satisfying on a different level. You’ll see! For most of us moms, as long as we’re healthy—and our kids are healthy and happy—the chips can fall where they may and it will look like they’ve been placed there.

4. Modern parenting

I’ll give you insights from both my training and my experiences as a mom to Ava; I call my approach the parenting pantry. I am thrilled to report that once I learned how to live, my stress level—and Ava’s preschool separation anxiety (no doubt the result of my aforementioned overcommitments and inconsistencies)—diminished simultaneously. There are no such thing as coincidences! Once we wrap this up, you will, just like me, be proud to acknowledge, “I am happy. I am calm. I am enough.” And personally, I can’t wait!